A while ago I put a call out for guest posters to talk about their ‘year of the yes‘ activities, moments or inspirations. Lovely Natasha tweeted me to say that she would be interested in stepping up to the (very welcoming) plate. I knew that Tash had her own inspiration and reasons to follow a similar ‘year of the yes’ type philosophy so I couldn’t wait to hear what she had to share with you all….
….and even more so when I heard snippets of a new adventure that she is embarking on with her lovely husband Simon. Si and Tash are good friends with my brother and sister-in-law, so I got a sneak peak of their exciting plans. I also had the pleasure of going to school with them both, so you could say it is a small world, but actually their adventure is all about acknowledging that we live in a pretty big world and we should do our very best to experience as much of it as we possibly can because life is short.
Over to Tash who can put it far more eloquently than I can….
We’ve just made a pretty big decision; to pack in our jobs, rent out our flat and take a year out to do something different. We’re on a quest to enjoy every moment….
In March this year I got married, it was the best day of my life. Immediately followed by my honeymoon, the best 2 weeks of my life. And then…. well back to normal, and that was the problem. In the weeks that followed the wedding, I couldn’t meet a friend/colleague/stranger without them enquiring as to when I was going to start popping out children (for those that don’t know, as soon as you get married you must already be pregnant, be trying to get pregnant or know the exact date as to when you will fall pregnant).
After exhausting the phrase “oh no, we’re not even thinking about having children yet”, to the point where I was considering getting it tattooed across my forehead, we were almost forced into having the conversation with each other. We do want children, one day, but there is SO much we want to do before then. One of the big things on the “things to do before we have babies list” had always been to travel again. We took an amazing trip just after I left university and we always vowed we take the time to do it again. But once you start your career, life gets in the way, and the thought of taking anything longer than 2 weeks out of London seems impossible.
All of a sudden we found ourselves in a “now or never” situation. If we left now, we could take a year-long adventure, come back and still have plenty of time before we needed to be sensible, settle down and all that jazz. But if we left it any longer, we’d be 30, pregnant and in the suburbs before we knew it, wondering where the last few years had gone. The big decision wasn’t so big after all, in fact it was pretty simple.
“Enjoy every moment”. Such a simple mantra, and one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever been given. It’s so simple, so obvious, and yet so often ignored in each of our busy little lives. This advice was given to me by my husband’s mother, Diana. It was just a few months after she’d been diagnosed with terminal cancer, and only a few weeks before she would pass away.
Losing someone so special, so suddenly, changes everything. For us (and I know this sounds cheesy) it was our perspective on life. Of course it’s not possible to enjoy EVERY moment, doing the washing is never going to fall into that category, but we knew we weren’t enjoying enough moments. So we decided to do something about it.
The plan started small (ish), we wanted to take a month out and head over to Brazil for the World Cup. Before I knew it this had snowballed into something much bigger: a campervan trip around Europe, a fortnight in Australia, a winter working somewhere, a roadtrip down the East coast of America. All of a sudden we were looking at an incredible 12 month trip, and we could not be more excited.
I don’t know about you, but Tash’s post has really inspired me to think about where my priorities are….